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This is CL's reaction to my post: Dissecting the double standard.... Fascinating commentary, capable of standing as a blog post by itself. Posting it for everyone to read (slightly reformatted for readability). Thanks CL. :-)

Double standard is created by the society in which an individual or group are influence by an idea that they adapt base upon knowledge, beliefs and information.

If men think they can do it, so can the woman.

If women can do it, so can the man.

Equal opportunity only applies if you know how to get it.

If the men want to cheat on their partner – it’s a choice.

If women want to cheat on their partner – it’s an option.

If they want to mutually consent to cheating – then, it’s a rare deal.

If they hide it – it’s a burden.

Bear in mind that there are different types of love and relationships that exist. [preferences]

Men can’t bear children, this is an obvious anatomical facts. Women can’t have children without the seed of life, an obvious reproductive fact. Gay men can have children – Artificial Insemination and Surrogate mothers. Lesbians can have children – buy the sperm or look for the hand outs.

Gender role – she’s supposed to be doing this and his suppose to be doing that. Supposedly, said who? Thinks: - The male chauvinist and the feminist movement.

When economic issues are at stake, there are obligations to be met. ½ and ½, separate accounts, or somebody will eventually take on the role as treasurer. Which of these sounds agreeable? Is subject to changes a “clause” to include? I say, “Let me do the spending, you handle the checkbook dear.” [Who is saving the receipts (evidence)?]

Is Polygny, a double standard in the Bible – Judaism and Islam too? Or is it a fix against promiscuous relationship which is forbidden in one of the 10 commandments?

History tells me that there were many widowed women. Their husbands died in the battle. Many of these women were deprived of a family unit, the social needs, emotional needs, sexual gratification -- therefore polygny became the fix against increasing immoral sexual acts.

During the Jahilliyah Days (prior to the introduction of Islam) in the Arabian Peninsula, women used to put their flags outside their tents. This means she can have different men to come and have sex with her and potentially choose the man whom she thought to might have been the father of her child. This practice continued and as a result sexual diseases became rampant. It was then abolished.

Today, there is not much difference, some women have countless partners whether married or not and definitely prostitutes on the loose. Why can’t women marry all these men – The law is far from being too liberal, legal issues are at stake specifically on determining the biological father and the diseases (STD) that might arise from such cohabitation.

Interesting enough, today, having a relationship outside marriage is more acceptable than polygny. Am I missing something here?

Consider the ratio of women to men today. Polygny is unselfish, the greatest charity, a humanitarian cause and cheating wouldn't be necessary.

In any case, if Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, then what an EARTH are we here? Do not guess.

Stay tuned for more on this. After reading Punzi's related yet somewhat different take on this issue here, and after having a rather insightful chat with Snglguy with this very same issue, I think we've only scratched the surface as far as this topic is concerned.

If you have your own thoughts on this subject, feel free to give your two cents worth. :-)